Trying to avoid all the discussion about working mums, being one myself, not because wanted to, but because needed to support my son from a few weeks old. My work, a Swedish company present both in the UK and Sweden told me to quit my job because i was having a baby but i could rejoin after half a year but lose everything paid in up to then and the dad – he left within a few weeks of the arrival. One of memories of this time was i couldn’t make myself go food shopping at the weekends because the supermarkets were filled with, i thought – happy families.
Did go back to work but part time. This meant fell into a poverty trap where earned just enough so wasn’t eligible for benefits. But i was proud not to be on benefits – this is how we were brought up and it was a pain to fill in long winded forms every time a small change in anything. Thinking back, didn’t feel had a choice and by myself – couldn’t change the system.
So asked my son last night what he thought about mums going to work and he said and this makes me want to cry ‘Not a good idea, you needed me‘
I know its tough – you’ve worked hard to get an education and do well at your job – but this is only one small part of you and for mum’s and dad and new baby – its such a short time, why knock yourself out to pay someone else to enjoy this moment. If you have a choice – do you really need to work. Can you have an important break?
Think its also an investment in emotional stability of your child and family.
sunnypolarbear 