Reasons

Perhaps understanding why people might be like they are (towards you( – can help you move on and not waste your valuable life.

Juliana Breines Ph.D. on Psycology today writes “Think about what makes a comment insensitive. Comments that minimize or invalidate a person’s lived experience and the reality of their situation are especially likely to be hurtful.

One of the explanations why people do this could be – They haven’t been there. When someone hasn’t experienced major hardship themselves (or hasn’t experienced the specific kind of hardship that the person they are speaking with has experienced), it can be harder for them to put themselves in the other person’s shoes.

Another explanation – They have been there, but they’re beyond it now. Although shared experience can give empathy, there are circumstances under which it may have the opposite effect. One series of studies found that people who had successfully overcome a distressing event (e.g., bullying), compared to those who were currently enduring it or who had no experience with it, were more harsh in evaluating those who had failed to overcome the event.

Or they dont want to imagine being there or they don’t want to feel vulnerable. it is upsetting when bad things happen to good people. Many individuals may try to avoid this thought by convincing themselves that victims must in some way be responsible for their misfortune. This is a double-edged sword: It helps people feel less personally vulnerable, but it can also make them less compassionate.”